Letter from a girlfriend:
Even though porn significantly burned my last relationship, I never viewed porn as something that one could be addicted to until I started reading your blog. One day while using my ex-boyfriend’s computer, I became curious as to how he spent his time on the internet and I decided to browse his history. There were literally hundreds of visited porn sites including live web cams. I also found that he had made an alternate email address (one that I was not aware of) where he was sending emails to women off amateur sites and making plans to meet with them in person.
I was absolutely crushed.
This was the same man who had professed that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. I knew that he viewed porn on occasion and even though it made me feel worthless, I felt like it was better than him seeking to fulfill his sexual desires elsewhere. When I confronted him about everything I had found on his computer, he lied. He denied visiting any of the sites that I found and even put the blame on someone else. To make a long story short, his porn addiction is what essentially ruined our relationship. I would not dare perform the sexual acts that he often viewed online, which eventually pushed him into the arms of another woman who would. They are still together to this day.
During my last relationship, there were times I vowed I’d never read your blog again because of how much it hit home. And as little sense as this makes, I felt mad at you for the things you wrote especially calling porn an “addiction.” I was in denial that I was going through a relationship that would never recover from such an addiction. The addict refused to admit he had a problem and unfortunately I’m sure there are countless men in this world like him; men who will never admit that porn is a problem, which will eventually lead to the end of their relationships/marriages.
Thankfully, I am now in a relationship with someone who is repulsed by porn, strippers, etc.
