Letter from a wife:
Choosing to stay with my husband was literally the toughest struggle for me but ultimately I realized it was about choosing my saviour. The day I found out was January 17 of this year and I don’t think I will ever forget that date. I’ve watched my husband grow tremendously since then by taking part in a Pure Desire mens group and of course through Jesus Christ and I rejoice in the fact that he is truly repentive but am surprised how much more I am in turmoil…. still.
Thank you for confirming that my heartache and heartbreak is okay and normal even though my husband is doing everything he can to regain my trust and reestablish our marriage. Thank you for validating the whole range of emotions and thoughts I’ve experienced these past couple of months. I still cannot fathom how I have nothing to do with the addiction and I am struggling with it to my very core and I’m only sustaining through the wonderful grace of my heavenly father. I am amazed how much more I love my husband and have for my husband though at the same time…..
Thank you for speaking about how the worlds view of porn being the norm is not. Sometimes I feel like I’m the only person that sees this and I want to scream, “I’m not overreacting and I’m not making a big deal out of nothing and I’m not going to just let a man be a man!!!!”
My husband is in the military and you would not believe the attitude regarding porn within this lifestyle because they deploy so much and for so long…. It is literally passed around like a canteen full of water to people roaming the desert. There is never enough. I’ve watched an unbelievable amount of great people end up with shattered marriages and confused and hurt children because of the refusal to realize and admit that porn is so damaging on so many levels.
I loved your statement about giving your husband your heart but not your worth… I’ll be using post it notes for that one!!! (in the car, in the bathroom…. 
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I will be starting a class at our church called Betrayed Heart and it is basically for the women who have husbands/ boyfriends in the Pure Desire class (all about men and their addiction to porn and overcoming it through Jesus)…. I have been reading the Pure Desire (by Ted Roberts) book with my husband and it’s phenomenal even though I feel like I may never fully be able to wrap my head (or heart) around this. If you do get the chance to look up some information on the books/classes I hope that you may find it useful to share with other women who may contact you in the future. I honestly did not write to ramble on and on but your blog just touched my heart so much that I had to say thank you.
My husband left for training last month and will not be back until next month… Then he will leave again shortly thereafter for another several months. Only God can make this work but thank God He can. 
