One of the beautiful women who emails me about her struggle to heal after discovering her husband’s porn struggle wrote to tell me about the wonderful weekend she had. I wanted to share it with you. I love stories of hope. Stories that show you how possible it is to change, to heal, to climb this hill and see the light again. So, here’s her quick email:
After a moment of beautiful intimacy, I said to my husband “I forgive you”. I guess I never did that before specifically about the porn use and everything that happened as a result.He broke down in tears. Ever since disclosure he has been terrific. I have been the one lagging behind. But forgiveness truly is healing. Saying it out loud loosens the hold satan has. Since I said it, the stronghold on me has been loosed. I can feel the difference. In fact, I haven’t mentioned it at all since that day. But satan is still trying to get me to slip up, but I keep giving it to God. It is sometimes a tough battle, but the enemy will not get anymore victories.
This made me smile. The devil will always try to get us to slip up. He’ll try to pull men back into a lustful way of life and self-pleasure, and he’ll try to pull women into focusing on themselves, their insecurities, and their own pain. But we can overcome this. We can fight through the obstacles. Truly confessing and forgiving is beautiful. It’s the first step toward true healing.
But there are many more steps. We have to be willing to always climb, to never look down at the height we have climbed, to always be watchful so we don’t fall. We must be careful. As we heal (both men and women) the steps seem to get more narrow. It is never difficult to fall. So please … be careful. Guard your hearts. You are so precious. All of you. Porn stars to porn addicts to hurting wives. You are valuable. Keep climbing. 
