I am amazed at the similarities between all of us. The youngest girl to email me about her boyfriend’s porn addiction was 15 years old. The oldest woman to email me about her husband’s porn addiction was 64 years old. And there have been many ages in between.
When I first started doing what I do (books, this website, etc.) so many people (including publisher’s who rejected Exposed) told me I was too young. I needed to be at least forty and married at least fifteen years in order to shed light into this. Sometimes I believe that. Who am I? Why am I doing this? I have nothing to say. I’m not married long enough. I’m not wise enough.
But every woman who emails me reminds me of something. We’re all the same in this. We all have the same exact insecurities. I mean, to a tee. We have the same fears, doubts, and anxieties. The same thoughts plague our minds. The same wounds are in our hearts. It doesn’t matter if you’re 15 or 60 … when the person you love looks at porn, betrays you, and lies to you it kills.
You are not alone.
There are women across the globe of all different ages who are going through the same thing. There are women out there who have been married several times only to find that their current husband is a cheater too. There are women out there who have been raped, molested, used, and then betrayed by the one man who promised to take care of them. There are women out there who are crying themselves to sleep right now because they don’t feel good enough, pretty enough.
What you are feeling right now is being felt by another woman this very moment.
When you feel alone, remember what I’m saying. And remember that it doesn’t matter how old you are, how many years of marriage you’ve had, or how much wisdom you’ve gained over these years … betrayal still hurts. It hurts. And you are not alone.
We’re in this together.
